[Editor’s note: This post could change the way you are in this world and lead you to live your dream life.]

 

 

 

Oh the perfect

Dream Life…

It seems we all want it in some ways!

 

Are you living your dream life?

What is it really?

 

Opening this Pandora box caused me “shocking” waves of redefinition in the last years, and more particularly over the last weeks.

Washed ashore, I had to open my eyes to what my reality is.

I uncovered my dream life wasn’t at all

what I thought it would be.

 

[Notice the would, it’ll be clearer in a few minutes].

 

 

1.                   Wanting is not living

 

Well, we spend our lives wanting

our exciting definition of

Dream Life.

Not living to the fullest.

 

We want whatever is next on our Dream Life to-do list.

A partner in life.

A baby.

A nice house.

A cool job or thriving business.

An enchanting trip.

To end suffering.

To stay young.

The latest gadget.

A fun night out were we can forget a dreaded week-

sometimes caused by our chosen lifestyle.

And then we’re on to the next “want”.

 

We grow up wanting.

The screaming baby is all wants.

And when we’re old enough to say it in words, it comes out the same!

“I want juice please! (Insert more or less whining intonation here)” –

the first sentence of my boys.

 

And you can, on our reality level, suffer a lot because you don’t have what you want.

 

Have you stopped to notice, actually,

that this wanting

creates the suffering?

 

On the ultimate level

we’re already whole,

so just right,

intrinsically ok,

some say perfect.

 

We already have what we want.

And we’re here only to experience,

live our dream life now.

But usually we don’t want that.

We want the next big thing that doesn’t exist.

 

(I’ll put this Secrets of Existence link once, for new comers to understand where we’re coming from and understand better the whole article).

 

Wanting more than basic survival needs is toxic.

It most certainly leaves us feeling unhappy, obnoxious, unworthy, needy, in delusion, living in the future.

Not being thrilled by the Carpe Diem Magic –

the blog that led me to start this bigger one was called like that.

 

 

2. Dream Life is not the future

 

The future can change.

But most of all, it isn’t now, the only moment we can grasp.

So if you want a dream life that is only possible in the future,

you’re creating yourself suffering and could possibly never have it.

 

Your Dream Life  

can’t be in the future because

all that you have is this now moment.

 

 

 

The Dream Life  is

what you can experience this very moment, at this stage in your life.

Is possible now.

If you say “It’s all there is?

Because I don’t feel it’s such a dream at all”,

maybe it’s because you’re not paying attention to it.

Making a conscious choice

to see the soap opera illusion and the real happiness now.

 

Find all this paradoxal to the this site’s purpose,

do what you love and living your dreams?

It was perplexing me but I find that on the contrary,

 having no hope and grand plans enables us

to Live the Dream… Now.

 

 

3. Dream Life theory

 

Zen masters tell that at each stage of your life, you’re perfect.

As a baby is unaccomplished, but such a wonder at the same time.

 

Don’t judge yourself harshly.

And stop wanting a perfect future life.

Your situation would already

be perfect in this instant.

 

Scientists like Einstein told us time and reality are persistent illusions.

 

Now is what you would be here to experiment.

Now would be the big dream.

 

Live fully

To experience and choose

the miracle of life.

 

 

4. My Dream Life

 

I’m the first guilty of Dream lists, I still have one somewhere I wrote as a kid

and it included having a 4×4 (ended up having more than needed),

and a monkey (well, certainly don’t want it anymore, better in the wild).

 

Since I’m young I commit the “sin” of wanting indeed.

I was really competitive, cheating in first grade to be the first.

I found out I could be it, with no cheating.

But there you see the ego wanting again.

Lesson was learned since then, living my life more honestly and humbly.

But ego was strong, wanting to be an accomplished athlete, writer, and more.

 

Luckily life is always a teacher.

And I’m learning to let go of my ego more and more.

Multiple events occurred,

including that I was sick a whole year,

my baby died at mid-pregnancy

and that I’m choosing to be by my children’s side instead of focusing full-time on a career

because I feel it’s the right thing.

 

Now I feel that just living in the now… is awesome!

 

I do what I love, moment to moment.

I don’t really care about goals.

 

Mind you, yes I accomplish more.

And I feel I live more fully.

 

I’m running every other day, to be running a marathon this year.

But what I feel great doing really is just running

and the feeling of accomplishment in the now.

As Leo Babauta the author of Zen Habits,

who achieves a lot goal-less,

it doesn’t really matter

if I do or not the proclaimed goal.

Same thing for my book Do What You Love I edit.

I do it for love of writing.

As it’s doing, it will certainly come out though,

and I’ll be pleased to offer it to you.

 

You can set no goals but be a major achiever.

Just by taking into your day what you love most.

For me these days it’s being with my guys and doggies,

friends,

running,

meditating,

music,

writing,

and relaxing (see P.S.).

 

My Dream Life these weeks:

 

 

 

 

My dream life is now.

And I’m delighted to realize it.

 

I’m even learning to enjoy most disappointments (and curse less often).

Little fights, hurts, incidents, are fun, really.

Because it’s part of living a journey I love.

 

 

5. Dream Life aspects

 

Letting go of desires,

letting go of your ego,

just experiencing a great life now,

what is it concretely?

 

On relationships, a search of a perfect mate, realize that

 

Dream Relationships are a hurting desire just the same.

The true thing is love.

And love is in everything you do, in you and around you.

 

Wanting someone to be perfect or wanting no one is wanting.

Love doesn’t fail.

Realize that love is everywhere and that you have a relationship with everything.

Try to encounter it until, like I found out, it really is true.

Just be love in your experience.

 

On money, hell, hum… well,

 what would you do with it?

Spend more time with your loved ones?

Be more adventurous?

Make more fiestas?

 

You can do those now.

A Dream Budget isn’t mandatory.

 

In fact the more you have,

the more you have to take care about

and it can leave you suffering more.

 

 

On accomplishment,

live your passions just for the sake of loving them.

 

Bring parts of what you love in your day.

 

I dreamt of being a recognized writer,

but the core of it for me is just writing and helping.

What is at the core of your want of realization?

 

 

6. How to live the dream life now?

 

1. Be goal-less, habit-more.
2. Love all material, activities, people, or bring what you love of those more in your life.
3. Be yourself. Lose the ego more and more. It goes together, as on an ultimate level, we’re emptiness and awareness, but in this reality we manifest in a certain playful energy. Find it, be more.
4. Shed your fears. Express yourself. We can find great joy and satisfaction this way, expressing our inner selves.
5. Worth repeated, live in the now, it allows flexibility. And fun!
6. Respond to those questions. I’m a big believer in figuring things out as an observer. So grab a paper, and go!

        i.      Reflect on if your life could be already perfect as it is.

       ii.      What am I doing about that as of now? Evaluate your situation (relationships, money, accomplishments and other “needs”), what makes you tick and what you can do to enjoy being more conscious and in the now. Find also what is at the core of your dream list (see above).

      iii.      What do you love and bring now more in your life?

      iv.      Realize 7 wonders about your life now. For me,

1. Being able to contact on internet soul-to-soul across time and distance.
2. My family’s good mood.
3. Time stopping doing what I love.
4. The play of light.
5. Feeling loved and loving.
6. Feeling life is ok.
7. Zen findings.

  

Want less.

Be more.

Live your dream life now.

You’re privileged.

You’re the only one

who can live yours.

 

 

P.S.

* On relaxing:

Oops!

I found out I worked too much this week: I “wanted” to finish on schedule.

I had trouble finishing this article even though it was a thrill to write it.

I added “relaxing” to the list above.

So living in the now permits you to stop, reassess and be well.

Lesson’s learned, another proof we create hell or heaven life.

 

* Blogging is so much fun and

I’m glad my mother started a blog

(Coucoulou, artistic French blog).

She sparked my creative side and

I’m exploring it with this post.

Start your own and see for yourself!

 

* I stumbled upon this nice video

with Jim Carrey on life

(explanation for the “monkey session” at 2 minutes):

 

* For more info,

as they say when you’re ready the teacher appears,

so I’m glad to share you the teacher in my life right now if it can help you:

Everyday Zen