“Secrets of Existence” is my Blog Post of a Lifetime, in an era for clarity on reality, consciousness and love. As if someone tells me, “Shoot me all at once your best advices”, I say “Watch out, here they come!”

“Damn, I swear this Buddha is laughing at me right now”.
I observe him giggling. And then he makes eerie faces and winks. This might be a play of luminosity and mist as I try to meditate facing a Buddha statuette in the warm bath, a cool snowy winter breeze coming off the open window.
“I never thought I’d ever do that in my life.” Some years ago, meditating was not the coolest or wisest thing to do in my view. I was always more focused on accomplishing “important stuff” to live my life right and to the fullest. But now I can’t literally live without it.
Let’s rewind back to some explanation why I’m at this point, where my soul is at and what there is in here for you.
The starting and ending point of all. What we should be able to learn first in life and talk together commonly, instead of the weather with friendly people at the mall or in family gathering. The core of spirituality, social sciences, morality and modern physic knowledge is here. Everything I’ve learned so far down the rabbit hole of truth. What supports Do What You Love in our existence.
Some of you might already know about this “knowledge on existence”, but I hope to bring more clues from my outlook. Some of you might not, so feel free to comment for more enlightenment or read it again some time later. There might even be other editions of this post as I go further on the journey, but all that really matters is here.
There is one certainty. When you comprehend this simple but erudite knowledge, it changes you. Or more adequately, it puts you back at the place where you feel everything is perfect, blissful… or way ok.
It makes you aware, maybe for the first time or if not it deepens your comprehension about the world.
I believe you can try to make it back to your previous state of (un)awareness, but something’s definitively changed and you can’t totally be back there, where ignorance is bliss they say. But I say, and some wiser than me too, really, knowledge, or awareness, is bliss.
So read along at your own risk. And for your own salvation.
Secrets of Existence Definitions
I think, therefore I am.
-Descartes
All we really know for certain is that we are aware, therefore we exist. For example, what we see isn’t actually there like it looks, it’s a deceptive construct. Our brain creates an interface making sense of projected energy.
“Ay, there’s the rub.”
So where do we exist?
What is the ultimate reality about?
How can we make sense of our being and choose how to be?
Even the “I” we think so much of, what is it really?
Let’s look at some clues to understand more:
Clue #1 – Reality
re·al·i·ty
- The quality or state of being actual or true.
- The totality of all things possessing actuality, existence, or essence.
- That which exists objectively and in fact.
“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.” “Now he has departed from this strange world a little ahead of me. That means nothing. People like us, who believe in physics, know that the distinction between past, present, and future is only a stubbornly persistent illusion.”
- Einstein
The nature of reality is a concept that puzzled me even since it came to my consciousness. I remember we, me, my teacher and some friends, talked about it in high school physics, in a heated moment talking about The Matrix truths.
Yep, I’ll say it upfront, dear ones, we live in a hologram. What you see, what surrounds you, what you think, is illusive. The physical world in which we live apparent itself to a virtual reality. All we physically encounter and interact with – people, animals, plants, minerals, time (no wonder I never liked clocks, see link the Einstein quote above for more on time), and else. The beautiful, the simple, the complicated and the ugly.

Even if relativity and quantum physics have to work out how it can be explained thoroughly, undeniable proofs are here and there’s no need to refute the facts anymore. Spirituality has said it for a long time. Buddhism says since thousands of years that reality is dual. On one part, there is energy, and on the other part matter, that is illusive and called Samsara. 
Science has no choice but to accept the facts, without accepting it the reality makes no sense. The knowledge about our illusive world has now to make it mainstream.
We are energy. And we manifest in a hologram fashion. What is a hologram simply put? A hologram is two sided. On one part it is encoded information, energy, which is projected in a second part. We would appear as a hologram: the I is separated as a soul and body. Even subparts work like a hologram, like the brain.
Our universe is like that too. Even what forms our universe like photons are dual. It is found out that an electron exists at the same time as a wave and as matter (when looked at) – neither of its form can be standing alone, it is both. The experiment that discovered this fact is over 200 years old, recognized as the most beautiful experiment in physics and is still debated today.
So in brief, we are all one separated in a duality. Why this came to be, why it is, I don’t pretend to know. Maybe we wanted it this way. Or the supraconsciousness of the cosmos, a “god”, as we can suppose exists since all matter have a counterpart. But knowing we are a sophisticated hologram or virtual reality is enlightening in many points.

What does living in a hologram entail? That you can affect it with your energy, and the more aware of it the more powerful you are, and that if you don’t see it’s a hologram you mistake the illusion for the whole truth. For example, some people are able to manifest their thoughts, their energy, into this reality, the physicality. Where they put their energy to, their attention, has been scientifically observed and attested: they can manifest a wide array of alteration of reality, such as create scars –stigma, manifest collectively apparitions like Mother Mary, heal cancers or excel at sports just by visualizing getting better at them for a while.
The cosmos is a whole, and being so it’s perfect in itself. It might mean that we’re really in the hologram to do nothing. But it’s not so much, since the hologram has its own limited rules you have to follow them and be respectful playing in its enclosure – or you’re out, of balance or of the game.
Others ways to understand this dual world is well explained in The Matrix movies. On one side, you have the Matrix, which is a false virtual reality where humans live as in a dream (Samsara). On the other part you have the true reality, pictured in the movies as humans being asleep or mavericks fighting the system that keeps humanity in this dual state.

"If real is what you can feel, smell, taste and see, then 'real' is simply electrical signals interpreted by your brain." and "Have you ever had a dream, Neo, that you were so sure was real? What if you were unable to wake from that dream, Neo? How would you know the difference between the dream world and the real world? "

Spoon boy: Do not try and bend the spoon. That's impossible. Instead... only try to realize the truth. Neo: What truth? Spoon boy: There is no spoon. Neo: There is no spoon? Spoon boy: Then you'll see, that it is not the spoon that bends, it is only yourself.
You could also understand it with a virtual reality game. A soul controls the player, the avatar, your body. Except that in our game, the goal isn’t really to have more power or wealth as commonly thought. No, the game of life has ethics and consequences.
Looking at the physical reality carefully, we discover certain rules. Here are some of the most important:
- You can’t really attack the people’s souls. Souls, energy, will exist forever in the whole reality because nothing is created and nothing is destroyed. A part of you never cease to exist. But if you hurt others physically, plants, animals or humans, you stop their growth or end their games, their chances to accomplish their potential and live life.
- Your goal must be then to find out what you’re here to do, what you love to do, how you can grow, as well as show love, respect and help others at their parts. Laugh, live, love, in brief exist in respect of others, are what matters most:
There is no end. There is no beginning. There is only the infinite passion of life [my note: existence].
- Federico Fellini, Italian Film Director (1920-1993)
You may note that the models to illustrate our absolute reality could be a bit simplistic. But they give out the general frame of it. In fact, explaining in words absolute reality is always going to be reductive because reality is beyond words. Anyway, maybe in future years a better model will emerge but surely the essence explained here will remain the same.
Clue # 2 – Consciousness
con·scious·ness
- The state or condition of being conscious.
- A sense of one’s personal or collective identity, including the attitudes, beliefs, and sensitivities held by or considered characteristic of an individual or group.
“A human being is a part of a whole, called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest… a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”
- Einstein
Science can’t understand who is in control of our brain if it isn’t the mind, or soul. Our brain is wired in such a way that it needs a signal from “something” to activate its different functions, as a bio-computer that can’t think on its own.
So this soul has to exist. We know it does, we experience consciousness in our waking time. Even in dreams, we might take on different forms but we are still an existing self-aware form.
And the basic energy, or light, of the soul is pure love…
Clue #3 – Love
love
- A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
Infinite Love is the only truth: Everything else is illusion.
- David Icke
All major spiritualities have it that love is the most essential theme. What comes up is the Golden Rule, which I even learned in a first morality course, Do not do to others what you would not life they do to you.
So love is commonly stated as the greatest value.
What we do is also for love. Everything we do is for love of it, or for having more of what we love. Our energy, our light, is love.
In fact, we could say we are love as energy, and we manifest it physically. And that hate doesn’t really exist, being the absence of love.
Stumbling Upon Existence Facts
What does our soul can come up with this lucid knowledge? Stunning master keys unlock an incredible journey:
Key #1 – Live
As a man who has massively studied existential questions and has many honorific awards, the spiritual leader Dalai Lama can enlighten us on what’s our day-to-day purpose. The Dalai Lama was asked why are we here for, what’s the purpose of life. To that he answered he didn’t really know on many levels, but the immediate purpose is to exist.
It may insufflate our importance to believe to know:
- Why everything’s here;
- How all came to be;
- What the ultimate truth is.
But one thing’s sure, we are here, we exist in this illusive reality. Our choices and circumstances led us here. Better enjoy the chimera:
“When a donkey, enjoy the grass.”
So here’s what our physical existence comes down to:
- Love.
- Do What You Love.
- Dream Big.
- Make It Happen, easily (you control the illusion for the most part).
And at the same time, for our entire existence, be fully aware of the truth, the complete perfect nature of existence.
“Rest in this peace, All is Well.”
Key #2 – Happiness
When I’m fully aware, nothing can bother me. Only happiness is here, and suffering evaporates. We are blissful in our true state, like the sun is always behind the clouds. Unhappiness is an illusion in our easily hazed minds.
In this state, I can’t be impatient with the screams of one of my 3 year old. For one, he doesn’t understand yet the nature of reality, and he’s caught in it. And his unhappiness isn’t his true state.
I can’t be either at someone mad, sad, or stuck in the “rat race”. Anger is an illusion, perpetual sadness arises from ignorance, and there’s no actual rat race.
This awareness breeds peaceful happiness and compassion toward less conscious beings.
Key # 3 – Laws
So the ultimate reality, that includes the dual side of energy and holographic matter, has some of its overarching law discovered:
- Cause and effect. What we do comes back to us. It is the Golden rule, or also the Buddhist’s karma. Be careful of what you do and make your best efforts to ripple love around you.
- Attraction. What you give your attention to attracts you even more of it. This might be why praying for healing sick people heals them more. If you’re an optimist, you envision great things, and put your efforts into it, you’ll most likely attract what you want. Be careful of what you wish for though.
- Entangled universe. Every part, like electrons, remains connected in space (what Einstein called spooky action at a distance). This is were psi abilities are proven to exist and take on from.
The laws of this hologram, this matrix, Samsara or physical reality are pretty much known and fixed but can be bended with theses overarching laws.
You know this is an illusion – you are powerful of this knowledge and of your imagination, your energy that you can manifest.
Key #4 – Freedom
You’re free, really. You have free will.
Knowing the secrets of existence can seem at first like a burden. I know I felt like this seeing for years many people not aware and so few awaken to talk about it.
Breaking free, you can feel alone, but you’re not, since we’re all one, droplets interconnected forming a whole.
So this knowledge about existence really frees us. We become conscious most of the times, if not all. We aren’t afraid of life, and death. We know we have a choice, are powerful and free.
We can also help others to break free, out of compassion. We must take action not to encourage ignorance.
Rousing Existence Theories
Row, row, row your boat
Gently down the stream
Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily
Life is but a dream
Some more theories haven’t been proven yet scientifically. But their truths have been discovered and lived by a variety of credible people.
Here are some more theories to ponder upon, that could be the next science discoveries and you’d had a head start knowing them:
- Karma. I’ve already talked about it. But it includes a wide array of theories, namely reincarnation. Did you know that Jesus, providing he really existed, has talked about reincarnation too and it is recorded, and that even passages in the Bible remain? Most passages were taken out in authorities’ reform to condemn reincarnation. Buddhist also talk about it, in fact their spiritual leader showed good proofs to be the reincarnation of the last one. And famous psychologists made leading scientific records of proofs of reincarnation, that can’t be explicated otherwise (such as recurring scars).
- Dreams. Dreams are known to be illusions, which illustrate us. This way we can work on them directly. And we can do the same work onto physical reality when we understand it is as illusive. But also, if you remain conscious in your dreams, you are able to be conscious all the time. It could even prepare you for life after death.
- Life after death (in bardo, heaven, etc.) Numerous spiritualities state its existence. As well as the accounts of spirits all over the world, in most if not all cultures. But for skeptics, you have the proofs collected by an award-wining doctor on near-death experiences, people clinically assessed as dead that experiment life after death, are able to see what going on during their departure (even a blind person did see what was going on), and talk about it coming back to life, that make sense scientifically.
- Psi abilities. Many psi abilities have yet to be proven, but many can attest they’re real for them. I know it’s true since I experience some myself (clairsentience, clairvoyance, telepathy, and precognition in dreams). These abilities are attested by the most renowned expert on this subject as ways to see to energetic fields and all that is encoded there. Some call it Akashic records, where we could read all that is, was and will be.
- Energetic entities. Enlighten beings and others entities could exist in the energetic fields. Many attest that they do and have great teachings to share with us. There are likely other conscious forms in this cosmos, more advanced than us. Stay open to that, it could very well be true. Be careful at what you choose to believe, but when it’s about love it can’t hurt.
Enlightening darkness
This is the clarity I can give you succinctly in these mysterious times. There is definitely more to say about truths of existence. I believe we can talk about them all our lives and beyond. But the essential is here to enlighten.
So, nice not to have you lost at sea but to be with you on the shore, on “solid” ground making sense of our existence.
Where you go from here on is your own grand choice. But if you choose to follow my path looking for truths, I’ll continue to hold the light.
For you to take-out

Questions to go beyond illusion:
| Do I live in the now, the only time that is real? |
| Who am I really? |
| Why am I in this physical reality for? |
| Why have I chosen those circumstances (at least a bit)? |
| Why am I manifesting this reality? What patterns reoccur in my life that I should fix (relationships, habits, views, etc)? |
| Where do I want to go with this knowledge? |
| What can I do to help others be aware? |
Secret of Existence Tips
To find your true self, try those exercises:
- “This is just a dream!” Repeat to yourself what you see, live, think is just a dream, illusion, or virtual game many times in the day. If you can, keep this awareness in your dreams too. This will put your concrete reality into a broader perspective. And remain aware, the most important quality you can develop.
- “I am.” Isolate yourself in a quiet place. Use a meditation technique you know, or close your eyes and center on you breath (to fix the mind, or you could chose an object as a Buddha). Let thoughts come and go without giving them your attention. Enjoy the now. Find this blissful perfect interconnected self. And don’t be mad at your Buddha when he laughs at you. I found that he’s laughing with us.
Further Readings
Some of my sources and to go beyond on the topic:
Holographic Universe
Life after Death
Lucid Dreaming in 30 days
Tibetan Dream Yoga
Buddhism for Dummies
Entangled Minds
Children’s Past Lives
My free book parts Do What You Love and best blog posts
P.S. Even if allegedly All Is Well and perfect, I wanted to create and share with you this article because I care about people’s wellbeing and most of us can’t see the truth clearly for various reasons and are kept in ignorance. It sure felt like work, even though I enjoy it, and I put a lot in this post as I finish it over the course of 5 days. So if it helped you, thank you for caring, sharing and getting it known!
Truly, Love,
Mary
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